Hi,
I’m a married women with kids. I’ve been with my husband for 15 for years and have had a crush on his very close friend for almost five years now. It all began ages ago when the friend and I first met and there was this amazing spark. There was so much amazing energy, and every time we’ve seen each other since that moment, there’s always something there. He’ll grab me for a hug or touch my hand and it’s … soooo nice.
We have so much in common, but obviously I can’t be with him. He’s single and dating, and sometimes it makes me jealous and upset. I know I have no right to feel those things. I’m pretty sure he reciprocates my feelings; a few of my friends have picked up on his behavior around me and confirmed that I’m not going crazy.
What my husband doesn’t know is that there was a day when he came over to my house looking for my husband but he wasn’t around. We ended up having a chat in the dining room, just the two of us and we kissed that day. I cannot control myself when I’m around him. Do I need to telly husband about it?
Who comes first spouse or friends?
When you get married, your spouse becomes your best friend. This means that your relationships with your former best friends have to change. You cannot be as good a friend as you were before you got married.
AFFAIR – The word that no married person ever expects or wants to hear. An affair is generally a sign things aren’t right with someone’s relationship. Without the necessary skills to heal the issues, a partner may engage in an affair as an ill-equipped way of attempting to have their needs fulfilled – whether these be for intimacy, and so on.
No matter how you look at it, having an affair is setting a bad example for your children. When they find out they’ll feel humiliated, confused, insecure, sad and angry that you could ruin their family. As a result you’ll lose moral authority with your kids. Discovery of your affair could lead to divorce.