Former UCT vice-chancellor Prof. Mamokgethi Phakeng has ignited a lively debate on social media after advising against getting married in community of property. Phakeng, who has been married twice, took to X (formerly Twitter) to share her perspective, warning that such arrangements can lead to individuals being “stuck” in unhappy marriages.
“No matter how much you love each other, do not get married in community of property,” she wrote.
No matter how much you love each other, DO NOT get married in community of property!🙏🏾
— Kgethi Phakeng, PhD(Wits); Hon DSc (UBristol) (@FabAcademic) January 22, 2025
Her statement drew mixed reactions online. Some argued that marrying in community of property reflects deeper trust and commitment in a relationship, while others applauded her for voicing what they felt is a harsh reality.
Phakeng expanded on her reasoning, saying that the arrangement can leave people legally tied to marriages they wish to leave. “It’s not at all about trust. In fact, people should only marry in community of property if they have malicious intentions,” she added, pointing out the emotional and legal toll on those unable to escape such unions.
Podcaster Penuel Mlotshwa chimed in, suggesting that people avoid marriage altogether. Phakeng responded sharply, criticizing the idea that being unmarried excuses unfaithfulness or irresponsibility, particularly when it leads to having children with multiple partners.
Mlotshwa took offense, saying the comment about children hurt him as a father. Phakeng clarified her point, emphasizing that whether married or not, people should remain faithful to their partners and avoid betraying trust.
Social media users remain divided, with some hailing Phakeng’s bold stance as empowering and practical, while others feel it undermines the importance of trust and unity in marriage.
The debate continues, reflecting broader societal tensions around modern relationships, marriage structures, and the responsibilities of commitment in a rapidly changing world.